![]() | |
![]() | |
![]() |
Marriage & Wedding Information |
|
![]() |
How to Enhance and Enrich Your Marriage
Any marriage counselor will tell you that one of the most common problems observed when couples come for help is poor communication skills. People get into trouble in their marriages because they have not developed their ability to listen and communicate. Barriers to Communication These are a few of the things that prevent people from communicating effectively: ? Not knowing how to communicate properly ? Not taking the time to think through what you want to say ? Not taking the time to anticipate what your partner might be thinking and feeling ? Fear of revealing too much of yourself ? Fear of your partner's anger ? Not wanting to hurt your partner's feelingsEmpathy and Acceptance People marry because they want to spend the rest of their lives with their partner. They have every hope of growing together and creating a relationship that makes them feel emotionally healthy. Two factors that are necessary for this to happen are empathy and acceptance on the part of both partners. Empathy is the capacity to put oneself in another's shoes and understand how they view their reality, how they feel about things. Demonstrating empathy and acceptance is critical to maintaining a strong relationship. Let's look next at some communication skills that enable you to create a climate of empathy, acceptance, and understanding. First we will explore a skill called Active Listening. Active Listening Active listening is a way of communicating that creates the important climate of empathy, acceptance, and understanding. ? It is a two-step response to a statement made by your partner. ? It includes reflecting back what emotion you detected in the statement, and the reason for the emotion.This is what active listening sounds like:"Sounds like you're upset about what happened at work." "You're very annoyed by my lateness, aren't you?" Why Active Listening Is a Valuable Skill Active listening is a valuable skill because it demonstrates that you understand what your partner is saying and how he or she is feeling about it. ? Active listening means restating, in your own words, what the other person has said. ? It's a check on whether your understanding is correct. ? It demonstrates that you are listening and that you are interested and concerned. Actively listening does not mean agreeing with the other person. The point is to demonstrate to your partner that you intend to hear and understand his or her point of view. This is good for your relationship for several reasons: ? When someone demonstrates that they want to understand what you are thinking and feeling, it feels good. ? It creates good feelings about the other person. ? Restating and checking understanding promotes better communication and fewer misunderstandings. More Active Listening Examples Here are some more examples of active listening: "You sound really stumped about how to solve this problem." "It makes you angry when you find errors on Joey's homework." "Sounds like you're really worried about Wendy." "I get the feeling you're awfully busy right now." More Communication Skills Although our space is limited in this short newsletter, there are a few more communication skills that I must mention. These include asking open-ended questions, making summary statements to check understanding, and encouraging your partner to open up and elaborate by using neutral questions and phrases. Open-ended questions begin with what, why, how do, or tell me. ? These questions get the other person to open up and elaborate on the topic. ? Asking these kinds of questions gets the other person involved by giving him or her a chance to tell what he or she thinks or knows. ? These questions are designed to encourage your partner to talk. ? They are useful when the other person is silent or reluctant to elaborate. ? They are also useful in dealing with negative emotions (such as anger or fear), since they help encourage the other person to vent feelings. Summary Statements Summary statements sum up what you hear your partner saying. ? A summary statement enhances your partner's self-esteem by showing that you were listening carefully. ? It also helps you focus on facts, not emotions. ? It helps your partner clarify his or her own thinking by hearing your summary. ? Summary statements also help you deal with multiple disagreements so you can deal with them one by one. ? They help eliminate confusion by focusing on the relevant facts. ? Summary statements also help you separate the important issues from the trivial. Neutral Questions and Phrases Neutral questions and phrases get your partner to open up and elaborate on the topic you are discussing. ? These questions are more focused than open-ended questions. ? They help your partner understand what you are interested in hearing more about. ? They further communication because they help you gain more information. ? When you ask these kinds of questions, you demonstrate to your partner that you are interested and that you are listening. Business Skills for Marriages You might be surprised to hear that the same skills that help people succeed in business can also be used to build a better marriage. Like any business, a marriage is a partnership of people. Many of the skills that make businesses run successfully-planning, organizing, and setting goals-also can be applied to running your marriage successfully. These are some of the skills that will strengthen any marriage: 1. Create an overall vision of what you want your life to be like; consider all life areas. 2. Develop a long-range strategy. 3. Set short-term and long-term goals. 4. Plan the steps that will help you accomplish your goals. 5. Organize projects. 6. Manage projects. 7. Manage people. 8. Evaluate progress and results at regular intervals. 9. Revise goals as needed. Garrett Coan is a professional therapist,coach and psychotherapist. His two Northern New Jersey office locations are accessible to individuals who reside in Bergen County, Essex County, Passaic County, Rockland County, and Manhattan. He offers online and telephone coaching and counseling services for those who live at a distance. He can be accessed through http://www.creativecounselors.com or 201-303-4303.
MORE RESOURCES: Rita Ora Reveals Her Sparkling Emerald and Gold Wedding Ring from Marriage to Taika Waititi Yahoo Entertainment Quickie Vegas Weddings Just Got Easier — The Airport Location Where You Can Now Grab A Marriage License TravelAwaits Married At First Sight wedding guest Samantha Symes busts out as she shows off her GG-cup cleavage Daily Mail An Enduring Commitment, Wedding Ring or Not The New York Times Married At First Sight newlyweds reveal bride's wedding dress caught on FIRE during their ceremony Daily Mail Kiara Advani and Sidharth Malhotra Wedding LIVE Updates: Groom-To-Be Sidharth Malhotra Spotted in De Zee News Hugines celebrate 50 years of marriage Walterboro Live Whitehall historic home is holding micro weddings in February Courier Journal Civil Service couple set example with ‘quiet’ wedding, sponsor orphans’ education The Indian Express Barberton judge seeks couple willing to take the plunge at Portage ... Akron Beacon Journal Priyadarshan, Lissy's son Siddharth gets married. See viral photos | Entertainment News | Onmanorama Onmanorama Pamela Anderson’s dating history from 12 day marriage to Christmas wedding to bodyguard OK! magazine ‘Forced marriage is painful’: bride’s wedding breakdown in China goes viral South China Morning Post Marilee Fiebig Spotted Without Wedding Ring Amid T.J. Holmes Divorce, Amy Robach Drama Yahoo Entertainment Sidharth Malhotra dances with bride at Delhi wedding, shyly changes subject when asked about his marriage with Kiara Advani. Watch The Indian Express KL Rahul-Athiya Shetty Marriage: Wedding Venue, Guest List & Everything You Need To Know CricketTimes.com Footage shows jubilant Prince Harry throwing confetti at King Charles' wedding to Camilla Daily Mail Athiya Shetty, KL Rahul UNSEEN pics from wedding is all about love, fun and 'Kacchi Kairi' Times Now Hrithik Roshan And Saba Azad's Marriage: Couple Going To Get Married In A Secret Wedding In 2023 BollywoodShaadis.com The President and First Lady Announce the Marriage of their ... The White House How Couples Are Incorporating Pickeball Into Their Weddings The New York Times After a First Date at Popeyes, Marriage Was on the Menu The New York Times Rainbow Wedding Network Expo attendees celebrate passing of 'Respect for Marriage Act' by Senate 12news.com KPNX Your dream wedding might not be legal – time to update England's old-fashioned marriage laws The Conversation The Best Wedding Planning Tips for Older Couples or Second ... Katie Couric Media Congress passed the Respect for Marriage Act. It's not without its ... Pennsylvania Capital-Star Supreme Court Hears Arguments on Whether Wedding Website ... Ogletree Deakins ‘Still Growing Together,’ a Teenage Crush Leads to Marriage The New York Times Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck Wed in Las Vegas The New York Times New Services Allow a ‘Buy Now, Pay Later’ Approach to Weddings The New York Times In step toward civil marriage, Jerusalem court accepts ‘Zoom weddings’ from Utah The Times of Israel |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
RELATED ARTICLES
Family Cycle (I) - Euphoric and Dysphoric Cycles in Marriage Despite all the fashionable theories of marriage, the narratives and the feminists, the reasons to engage in marriage largely remain the same. True, there have been role reversals and new stereotypes have cropped up. Nine Ways to Save Money on Wedding Photography Weddings are memorable events couples and their families want to remember forever, and what better way to capture these moments than by a camera. Weddings may be gone, but the feeling of joy will always stay because of the wonderful moments captured on film. All The Details: 25 Ways to Make Your Wedding a Unique and Truly Memorable Event If you've been to one wedding, you've seen it all. From the flowers and the candles to the dress and the music, the typical wedding can be as predictable and generic as your Uncle Leo's dance moves. Wedding Lingerie - Honeymoon in Paradise There are many things to remember in preparation for your wedding day. Of the many items you can't forget, your wedding lingerie is very important. Creating a Realistic Wedding Budget While Still Having the Wedding of Your Dreams Perhaps the single most important thing that must be accomplished when you are ready to begin planning your wedding is to first create your budget. Your budget is important because it is almost impossible to know what you can afford for each aspect of the wedding if you don't give yourself a limit to the overall spending costs. Marriage Problems: Help in Preventing Them When we want to be successful at something in life, we usually don't attempt to "wing it." That's why those who want to play the piano take lessons. Wife Smarter Than Husband? Is it safe for a wife to be smarter than her husband?Of course! Men who cannot afford social ornaments sometimes want inferior wives. Why? Often because they harbor a great sense of inferiority. Thoughts from Deik and Kims Wedding, for You and Your Marriage Deik and Kim, remember that marriage is a COVENANT relationship. It is not merely a contract of convenience, nor a promise to live together as long as each still feels good about the other. Marriage A Menace Apparently for a person to get married is like burning the candle at both ends. No one can say that what particularly is the meticulous age to get married but people in our society have set age limits for a person to get married and it has now become a common tendency that if a person crosses a certain limit he or she has to die in harness. Subtle Danger Signals on the Domestic Front If you've been around long enough, you're aware of the many things that can play havoc with domestic peace, even where the parties concerned are not short of goodwill and have the best of intentions. High up on the list of culprits here are poor communication habits, either on their own or in combination with other negative influences. Wedding Anniversary Symbols Most people are aware that significant wedding anniversaries such as 25th and 40th are linked to precious stones, in these cases silver and ruby. However, it is less well known that all anniversaries up to and including the 15th, and then every 5th anniversary, have their own particular symbol. The Pros & Cons of Beach Weddings Beach weddings are popular but they do present "special issues".Failing to consider these ahead of time could leave you unpleasantly surprised on your wedding day!There is certainly nothing that should dissuade you from your vision of a beautiful seaside ceremony. Help Your Marriage Survive The Rough Spots Every marriage has its ups and downs, its rough periods. Even in the best of circumstances, there are going to be difficult times. Want to Get Married in Las Vegas? Only in Las Vegas can you find everything for your wedding from the most lavish, private accommodations in the world to down and dirty Elvis impersonators, drag queens and scantily clad serving wenches sharing your wedding day. Choose from a church, a golf course, a casino, or any one of dozens of wild theme weddings, from the merely eclectic to the decidedly weird. Choosing a Maui Wedding Package Just like anywhere else in America, there are a variety of businesses offering different Maui wedding packages. A quick bit of research online or from the Maui Visitors Information Service, will quickly overwhelm you with wedding package choices. Wedding Etiquette for the Best Man, Groomsmen, and Ushers Undoubtedly, the groom will want to choose a few good men-often his brothers, college buddies, and best friends-to carry out all of the responsibilities traditionally assigned to the guys. Once your fiancé has picked his team, he'll have to give them a few pointers on just what their roles and responsibilities are, so here's the lowdown. Wedding Rings - Through the Ages and for All Eternity The exact origin of the wedding ring is uncertain and is rife with superstition and mythology. Papyruses dating back to the ancient Egyptian civilization depict wedding rings, and historians credit the land of the Pharaohs with originating this tradition. Whats in a Greek Wedding? The wedding service in the Greek Orthodox faith is an ancient and beautiful ceremony, which has been celebrated in its current form for centuries. The wedding ceremony is full of symbolism and is a great experience if you have never attended one before, because it is likely to be quite different from other weddings you have attended in Western Europe. How to Choose the Perfect Headpiece and Veil for Your Facial and Body Features All brides want to be beautiful on their wedding day, and often it is easy for them to picture themselves in a wedding gown. But once something is placed upon the head, the whole perception of self-image is altered. Prenuptial Agreements "Til death do us part" is still the language used in most weddings. Couples enter marriage with the hope of making a lifetime commitment. ![]() |
home | site map |
© 2006 |